I met up with a friend in Palm Springs this summer. Summer in Palm Springs….. HOT. The only the way to spend the afternoon was in the pool.
We’d head out there and within minutes…. cannonballs from the hot tub to the pool. Piggy back rides until you both went under. Turtle rides. Do you remember being a kid and asking your parents for a turtle ride in the pool? Oh my gosh, it’s still just as fun when you’re older.
We’d get out and sit by the pool, quickly drying in the sun. And then laugh about acting like children. And in the same moment realizing that the happiest “older” people in our lives acted like children. Giggles. Ridiculous jokes. Always finding a way to be silly. We started connecting the dots that a life well lived is done in a carefree way. Only chasing after the things that would make us happy, or fulfill us. Little worry. And always finding a way to make each moment fun.
This is how I want to live my whole life.
MSP films creates ski movies. And they’ve been working on a project called Day’s of My Youth that they released this year. And the entire synopsis is going back to being a child and chasing your dreams. And there is a narrative throughout the film that goes a little something like this…..
“Go back to your childhood.
What were the fascinating things? What’s out there? What’s beyond the stars? How long does it go on? A child wonders. It’s exciting. That there’s something that never ends.
Forget the money. If you say that getting the money is the most important thing you’ll spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living. That is to go on doing the things you don’t like doing. Which is stupid. Better to have a short life that is full of things you like doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way.
A completely predictable future is already the past. You’ve had it, that’s not what you wanted. When we play games and the outcome of the game becomes sudden we at that point cancel the game and begin a new one. Cause the whole zest of the thing is that you never know what the next step is gonna be. Cause if you did know, you wouldn’t take it.
See… we’re bringing up children, and educating them to live the same sort of lives we’re living. If you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is, you could eventually become a master of it. The only way to become a master of something is to really live it.
Let’s have a dream which isn’t under control. Where something is going to happen to me, where I don’t know what it’s going to be. You would dig that, and come out of that and say, “wow that was a close shave wasn’t it?” And then you would get more and more adventurous. And you would make further and further out-gambles on what you would dream. And finally you would dream where you are now.
Now the child, as a child, doesn’t know how to play the adults game. Which is a power game. And so has to be educated to learn the values of the power game. And what’s what, and what’s important. But when he has mastered that game he realizes that it has no rewards. That all the things the adults thought they were gaining by the power game are after all not worth having. It’s why you can be rich and miserable. So that having learned and having seen through the adult power game we come to back to the point of the child. From the child’s point of view, the things that which the adult considers irrelevant to survival are perfectly important.
Now do you see that? That situation is what’s called life. To be wise, you have to come again as a child. To become as a child means that you do things which adults consider unimportant. Wisdom doesn’t come from above down, it comes from below, up. It’s so important to consider this question. What do I desire?”
As the holidays start next week, my wish for you this season is that you see the world like a child. To dream without control. Chase what it is that you desire, even if the adults say it’s unimportant.
Life is too short to be taken so seriously. Seriously.